The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 29: Philosophy of Separation

In this week’s episode Noam and Sheva go deep into what it means to separate from people and things. Do you have a philosophy of, or a practice of separating from things that honors the experience you had with that person/thing?

Havdallah gives us a chance to separate shabbat from the regular week. Yet the ritual itself, involving the light of the candle, the feel of the wax, the taste of the wine, the smell of the spices, and the sound of the songs gives us a chance to take the beauty and the joy of shabbat into the following week so that week won’t be so mundane.

Just as in our relationships there is a break between when we might have those beautiful experiences again. So what do you take from your previous relationship that was very real and good, and hold onto it a little bit so that it doesn’t hinder you from something new, but also gives you joy in the process?

 

Naturally the conversation involved some 21st century dating terminology. So we’ve referenced them here. Clearly Noam is not as hip to these words as he though :)

"Ghosting" is when someone you're dating ends the relationship by cutting off all communication, without any explanation. And we're not talking about not getting a text back after one awkward OKCupid date, but receiving the ultimate silent treatment after several dates, or when you're in a committed relationship.

Also known as "zombie-ing," submarining is a form of ghosting where a person drops off the grid, only to then get back in touch months later—perhaps just as you were finally getting over being ghosted in the first place.