The Jewish Divorce Project Podcast

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 48: Passover Prep and Liberation From Triggers

Hot off the press! Noam and Sheva prepare for Passover by talking about triggers, how we can handle them better and liberate ourselves from their incessant draw on our lives. Yes, Will Smith/Chris Rock is how the conversation got started. But how the conversation goes will take you in different directions of introspection, cleaning out the crumbs of old trauma, and finding ways to make those crumbs and meaningless as the dust of the earth. We also talk about the pressure that comes with Passover (and all of Jewish life) as a single parent wanting to deliver for our children and feeling like we are falling short of doing so.

 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 47: Divorce From The Christian Perspective

In episode 47 Noam and Sheva talk with Lori Mazenko a therapist and coach who specializes in working with Christian women going through divorce. It's almost a mirror-like type of conversation as we get to see how our fellow co-religionists experience major life transitions. How does their people feel in the eyes of God? What do their spiritual leaders think of divorce? How do the community and institutions respond to the needs of those who divorce? Check out this thought provoking episode for all the answers. 

Lori's profile

With 30+ years of therapy, business and coaching experience, she has helped thousands of people find solutions for complex problems, including strength and hope after divorce and breakups. She is the author of two parenting books and the mother of three adult children and Lala to little two boys, is engaged to the love of her life, which results in a blended family of 6 kids + mates, two grandchildren, 4 dogs and 1 cat.   She has been an entrepreneur for 30 years and recently completed an epic project called AMAZYOUary and is currently dedicating her work time to her company RISEilient Consulting and Coaching, a faith-based divorce and breakup recovery resource and retreat weekend.   When she is not working, she loves to travel, backpack, hike but most of all dance.

https://riseilient.com/

https://www.facebook.com/RISEilient/

https://www.instagram.com/riseilient/

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 46: Sexually Transmitted Infections and Strange Bedfellows with Dr. Ina Park

In episode 46 Noam and Sheva have a frank and funny conversation with Dr. Ina Park, MD. Ina is based on the West Coast and just completed her book on the history of STD’s. It’s called “Strange Bedfellows.” She’s hilariously funny and, while not Jewish herself, has an impressive knowledge and affection of the Jewish community. Oh and in her spare time, she works and consults for the CDC. If you're dating, Jewish or not, this is a great conversation that gives you the tools to be more aware of the risks and realities of sexual life as an adult.

Check out Ina's website here: https://www.inapark.net/

And you can find her on Instagram at InaParkMd

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 45 - Judy the Icon and a Matriarch’s View of Divorce

In episode 45 we meet Sheva's mom, Judy- the Icon. Judy gives us a very frank and honest conversation about what divorces looks like from her perspective as a proud Orthodox matriarch. We laughed, we cried, and we discovered the favorite child in the family.

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 44: What’s a Divorce Coach and High Conflict Divorce

In episode 44 Sheva and Noam sit down with Dr. Susan Korb Bernstein (https://www.divorcecoachplus.com/), a certified divorce coach (CDC) who specializes in high conflict divorces (with a narcissist, custody battles, hidden money) and  divorce with families that have special needs children. When it comes to divorce, do you have a team or trusted advisor other than a lawyer by your side? Well that's what a divorce coach does. Helps you think clearly about your steps in divorce. 

Noam is also a CDC and specializes in working with men, and dads, who were blindsided by divorce and feel abandoned. He helps them to find their strength, gain clarity and perspective, so they walk with confidence and dignity.

We also share a special event coming up for the Jewish divorce community. Book Sunday February 2/13 at 9am PST for a conversation with certified divorced coaches and a financial advisor/planner. Look for Jewish Divorce Journeys on Facebook and Meetup

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 43 - New Year, New You

In episode 43 Noam and Sheva sit down to talk about how they handled and currently handle being alone in divorce. Not just alone as in without other people around. But alone in the sense of by oneself, isolated, perhaps deliberately from everyone else for the purposes of introspection and growth. In Judaism we call this hit-bo-de-dut. In the process of being alone we can discover new things about ourselves and even surprise ourselves with how new we become in the process.

The Jewish Divorce Project- Ep 42: Sex, Kinks, and Conversations with a Sex Therapist- This too is Torah!

WARNING- EXTRA ADULT conversation in this week's episode. Noam and Sheva are joined by Sara Rosen, a New York based Sex Therapist, with a license in social work as well as a Masters of Education in human sexuality. Learn more about Sara here.

And we are joined by an "Anonymous" voice from the orthodox community who share's her own experiences as the intersection between religious values towards sex and personal explorations with sexuality.

In this episode we talk about many different subjects including: porn, sex positivity, kinks, communication, toys, masturbation, and the sacredness involved in intimacy. Surprisingly we don't talk about consent, so remember that's an important part of any sexual relationship.

We talk some Jewish values, too, believe it or not. Specifically, Noam slightly misquotes the Torah in claiming Tamar had two sons, Er and Onan who died as a result of mastubation. The correct detail is that these were Judah's sons, not Tamars. Tamar was set to marry those two sons and give birth through them. 

Here is also a link to the piece of Talmud mentioned about the important nature of sex education within Jewish education. 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 41 Meeting the New Boyfriend and Dating a Best Friend

Episode 41 deals with uncomfortable scenarios as Noam and Sheva dive into a conversation about meeting your ex's new love interest, when is the right time for the kids to meet this new person as well, and should romantic relationships also be like a best friendship as well. We've got some thoughts for Dr. Laura as well. Remember her!?

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep:40 - A Good Reason For Divorce and Thanksgiving

Wow 40 episodes! So many great conversations, and so many more to come :) This week, Noam and Sheva discuss if there are legitimate reasons to get divorced, the pressures that lead to marriage in the first place, and Thanksgiving in divorceland. 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 39 - Using a Real Estate Agent to Locate the Love of Your Life

Noam sits down with Shevy, one of Sheva's dearest friends, and the hilarity ensues as they discuss the difficulties and frustrations in dating. Do you use the apps, or are you hoping to meet people organically when standing in line for a show? What if you used a match-maker to be more surgical in your approach to finding a mate? Do you even know what you want and what your searching for?