The Jewish Divorce Project Podcast

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 38 - Collaborative Divorce with Tammy Berman, LMHC

In episode 38 we are joined by Tammy Berman a licensed mental health counselor in Florida who specializes in collaborative divorce. Collaborative divorce is meant to be a healthier process of separation that avoids the threat and use of litigation to dissolve the marriage. Tammy teaches us about the practical applications of collaborative divorces and where to find this resources before you potentially commit thousands of dollars to litigious divorce. A major notion we touch on in this episode is that there is life after divorce, and that the way we approach divorce can impact life after divorce. Which is just as important as life before and during divorce. If your separation was collaborative, its entirely possible that family life after divorce will be collaborative, too. This is a chance at shalom bayit (peaceful home) even when there are two homes.

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 37 - Two Scorpios and a Cancer

Friends, you're gonna love this one! This week, Sheva and Noam are joined by Aliza Einhorn- an astrologer, tarot reader, and medium. Yes, she talks to the dead.  And we go deep from the beginning talking about the power of mysticism to create change, astrological personality traits, free will, and our hosts get their tarot cards read by Aliza. Did we mention that Aliza was a witch at one point in her life? Join us for our coolest episode yet!

 

Aliza wrote two books!

The Little of Book of Saturn and, most recently, A Mystical Practical Guide to Magic: Instructions for Seekers, Witches & Other Spiritual Misfits. You can find her @alizaofbrooklyn on Instagram, @moonplutonyc on Twitter, and at her own website, moonplutoastrology.com

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 36: Between You and Humanity - Rosh Hashanah 2021/5782

We're back from summer break! Sheva and Noam catch up and share about relationships failures and successes, and create a Rosh Hashanah message about relationships big and small. As you look in the mirror this new year, how seriously do you take your relationships? How seriously do you take the relationships in which people share something sacred with you? And how seriously do you take your responsibilities to your neighbor in relating to them in a way that says you respect their lives? Below are the articles referenced in the episode. Note: episodes will most likely be published on a bi-weekly basis from now on.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/23/sunday-review/covid-friendship.html

https://time.com/6076596/relationship-lessons-during-covid-19/

 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 35 - 48 Years of Wisdom w/ Gail and Steve

Hi everyone! We’re back with a special summer episode. Noam’s parents, Gail and Steve, celebrated their 48th wedding anniversary a few weeks back. So the Team saw an opportunity to inquire with the sages about the secrets to longevity in relationships and marriage. Gail and Steve talk about the cultural content in which they got married; the moments in marriage when they considered divorce, and why they decided against it; the lessons learned even late in marriage; why no advice is the best advice; and why it’s OK to go to bed angry.

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 34 - Emotional Fallout and What Direction Are Your Shoes Pointing?

After a brief vacation, Noam and Sheva are back at it discuss and debating the success and failures of divorce life. We brainstorm about some potential future topics, but get back to the main drama that is Noam’s love-life, or lack thereof. Have you ever experienced emotional fallout after putting yourself out there for love? Do Simon and Garfunkel have it right? A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries? If that’s true, what reason do you have for living at all?

We also touch the idea of perspective, and what it means to take steps to get it. Sheva reminds us of a great story from the Jewish tradition about having a packed house and needing to appreciate the peace of mind we can find inside. Noam shares a story about changing our mindset about the places we are at in life.

The Jewish Divorce Project - Episode 33: Menachem Kaiser and the Curious Case of the Beit Din…. And More Talk About Sex After Divorce.

Another funny and interesting one folks! This week we are joined by Sheva’s brother, Menachem Kaiser whose is not only an author, but mensch who happens to also be single. Menachem gives us a look at what happened in the Beit Din, the rabbinical court that his sister needed to engage with in order to get divorced in the Jewish tradition. The Beit Din is what provides very Traditional Jews guidance and decisions regarding complex issues. A Beit Din can be put together for another number of reasons: validating a conversion to Judaism, educating on common religious laws between people, and of course, dissolving marriages and arranging a Gett- the Jewish divorce document.

 

But in this episode, not only do we get a close look at how a very Orthodox Beit Din operates, but we also get some great laughs and intriguing conversation about dating, sex, and possible new topics to come. This part got so interesting we request for people to share text message flirtations with potential dates and mates for dramatic reading. If you have an example of a text conversation you don’t mind sharing anonymously, send it in to us at TheJewishDivorceProject.com

The Jewish Divorce Project- Episode 32: Old Flames, New Sparks and Interdating After Divorce

Think you know what you want in your intimate relationships after divorce? Think again. Now that you have a chance to more informed and intentional decisions about who you spend your time with, what are the factors or "boxes" that are most important for you to check off? What matters for you right now in your relationships may be very different for what matters to you in the future. 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Episode 31: Love Languages + The Gates Divorce Question

A highly anticipated episode in which Sheva and Noam guess and explore each other’s love-languages. In addition we also identify a challenge presented in the recently announced divorce of Bill and Melinda Gates: Having everything in the world doesn’t mean you’re going to have space to grow together. What does create that space? We at the JDP think it’s the love languages that we speak to one another. And remember, it’s not only if you can communicate what you need through your love languages. But, can you understand and meet the needs of your partner through their love languages.

 

The 5 most common love languages are:

Quality Time

Acts of Service

Receiving Gifts

Physical Touch

Words of Affirming

 

What are yours? You can find out at www.5lovelanguages.com

The Jewish Divorce Project - Episode 30: Big Hair, Piercings, and Zero F*cks Given

Sometimes the episode just falls into your lap. With divorce comes a great deal of transition. We’ve talked about the grief involved in divorce, but there is also the growth. As we transition through the process, we also transition into new people. Many of us mark that transition in different ways. How did you mark this transition in your life? In what way did you start to see yourself anew? Share your stories with us at TheJewishDivorceProject@gmail.com

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 29: Philosophy of Separation

In this week’s episode Noam and Sheva go deep into what it means to separate from people and things. Do you have a philosophy of, or a practice of separating from things that honors the experience you had with that person/thing?

Havdallah gives us a chance to separate shabbat from the regular week. Yet the ritual itself, involving the light of the candle, the feel of the wax, the taste of the wine, the smell of the spices, and the sound of the songs gives us a chance to take the beauty and the joy of shabbat into the following week so that week won’t be so mundane.

Just as in our relationships there is a break between when we might have those beautiful experiences again. So what do you take from your previous relationship that was very real and good, and hold onto it a little bit so that it doesn’t hinder you from something new, but also gives you joy in the process?

 

Naturally the conversation involved some 21st century dating terminology. So we’ve referenced them here. Clearly Noam is not as hip to these words as he though :)

"Ghosting" is when someone you're dating ends the relationship by cutting off all communication, without any explanation. And we're not talking about not getting a text back after one awkward OKCupid date, but receiving the ultimate silent treatment after several dates, or when you're in a committed relationship.

Also known as "zombie-ing," submarining is a form of ghosting where a person drops off the grid, only to then get back in touch months later—perhaps just as you were finally getting over being ghosted in the first place.