The Jewish Divorce Project Podcast

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 28: Divorce, Feelings, and One Big Sh*t Show

Probably our funniest and shittiest show yet! And when we say, “shitty” we mean in the way it feels to deal with our emotions sometimes. This week, Sheva and Noam are joined by a new friend, Rachel Kaplan- a Bay Area based psychotherapist with a private practice and really cool podcast. In this episode we discuss: The journey towards healing; What it’s like to adults to have feelings and move through them; The interplay between anger and shame; and the difference between feelings as farts and shits. We had to get a little childish for such a grown up topic as emotions : ) Stick around past the contact details at the end of the episode for a related Jewish lesson- we finally got it in!

You can always find Rachel at healingfeelingshitshow.com. And yourcorewound.com for a brief emotional assessment. 

How do you feel your emotions? Where do you usually carry them? What are you triggers? How do you process and move through your emotions in healthy ways?

 

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others." (Marianne Williamson)

 

A Prayer for the Gift of the Body

(The Bathroom Prayer)

Blessed are You, Adonai, Our Teacher, whose presence is felt throughout the cosmos, who formed human beings with wisdom and created within us many openings arteries, glands, and organs, marvelous in structure, intricate in design. Should but one of them fail to function by being blocked or opened, it would be impossible to survive and to serve You. Blessed are You, Adonai, who heals all flesh and acts wondrously.

The Jewish Divorce Project - Episode 27: The Wilderness and Integration Episode.

In this post-Passover episode, just as our ancestors ventured into the unknown after Egypt, Noam and Sheva go for a walk through the wilderness of divorce. As you enter a new chapter of your life, potentially one that is undefined in many ways, how do you prepare? How do you make the most of it? What are you boundaries that help you stay on track? What does your wilderness look like? Is it new relationships? New patterns of living? New parenting methods? Each of us transitions through divorce in our own way and time. What has it been like for you? Share you thoughts with us at TheJewishDivorceProject@gmail.com

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 26: Liberation Theology and Responding to Crisis w/ Dr. Jennifer Love, MD.

Shalom Friends! Sheva is on a vacation this week and will return next week. Noam speaks with Dr. Jennifer Love about liberation theology, responding to crisis, and how Passover can be a tool for spiritual guidance and growth for those going through divorce. 

 

One piece we forgot to mention in conversation was that the notion of liberation is perpetuated in our Tradition's injunction that every individual see themselves as having left Egypt. Liberation is not an event or action that is locked in time, but must reoccur in every generation. 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Episode 25: Passover and the Breadcrumbs On Your Soul

Passover is here! In this episode we talk about making meaning out of the divorce experience. How do you reflect on and clean out your baggage from failed relationships and past mistakes? How do you transform those crumbs into something useful and healthy for yourself?

Jewish terms that come
Erev Tavshilin- An eruv tavshilin (Hebrew: עירוב תבשילין, "mixing of [cooked] dishes") refers to a Jewish ritual in which one prepares a cooked food prior to a Jewish holiday that will be followed by the Shabbat.

Eruv - An urban area enclosed by a wire boundary which symbolically extends the private domain of Jewish households into public areas, permitting activities within it that are normally forbidden in public on the Sabbath.

Hametz - Hametz are foods with leavening agents that are forbidden on the Jewish holiday of Passover.

Bedikat Hametz - Checking and often clearing the house of any foods with leaving agents; or crumbs of those foods from places in the home where food has been eaten. The ritual usually occurs on the even of the holiday.

Biur Hametz - Burning the hamlets found in the home. Usually occurs on the morning of Passover

The Jewish Divorce Project- Ep: 24: A monster of an conversation filled with Monster Insight!

This week the JDP team is joined by a good friend, Avi Steinhardt and his puppet friend, Louie- a blue monster. In this monster of an episode Louie helps our hosts and audience members consider divorce from a kid's perspective. Avi speaks to us as a child of divorce, now having perspective as an adult in his own marriage and family. And Louie tries to reach the inner-child in all of us, so that we get back in touch with the necessary parts of ourselves that may be hidden away. 

Check out more Monster Insight videos on Facebook, Youtube and here: https://www.instagram.com/monsterinsight/

 

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep 23: Vulnerability, Clubhouse, Divorce Trauma and New Friendships

They just keep getting better! It's appropriate that this episode is our 23rd. Like Michael Jordan in his prime, this episode is deep, real and raw. It's only about 21 minutes long, but we go far in a short period of time. 

How do you enter into any new relationship when there might be some divorce trauma-based fear about how those relationships might turn out? How much do you share with people before its enough or even too much? What does vulnerability look like to you? If you were to enter into a new relationship with someone, what would you want them to know about you that would be true and show how imperfect you are?

The Jewish Divorce Project - Ep: 22 - Mazal Tov! You Got Divorced!! - The 6 Stages of Grief in Jewish Divorce

The Grief Episode. Noam and Sheva discuss the grief and mourning process in divorce. The six stages of grief in Jewish divorce are: denial, anger, braganing, depression, acceptance, and celebration. 

The Jewish Divorce Project- Ep: 21 - Purim and Boundaries

Hag Sameach! (Happy Holidays!) For episode 21 Noam and Sheva sit down to talk about Purim and setting boundaries. When it comes to setting boundaries in your divorce, are you like King Achashverosh- oblivious to what's going on, or like Esther- conscientious? Or do you find yourself swinging between absolutes like Haman and Mordechai?

The Jewish Divorce Project - Episode 20: Loneliness, Isolation, and Self-Worth

Probably the rawest episode we've done yet. Sheva and Noam talk about loneliness, isolation, and some of the impacts on self-worth. How long do you hold onto to friendships that seem dead? Do you reach out and ask for some love, or do you hope others will see you and reach out? Either way, your worth is not determined by how many people invest in you. Your worth is determined by how much you care to invest in yourself. 

Warning: F-bombs in this episode. 

The Jewish Divorce Project- Episode 19: Our Happy Divorce with Ben Heldfand

This week we’re going to be joined by Benjamin Heldfand, co-author (Nikki DeBartolo) of Our Happy Divorce. From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events-and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. (Google Books)

You can also find the Our Happy Divorce group and radio show on Facebook.